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The Original Comment
Because I feel like spamming you, and because I don't really feel like consoling you or judging anything that's been said in reply to your post, I'm going to answer the question you asked at the end. Even if it is a rhetorical question(though I don't know if it is or not...and now I'm babbling...)
Anyway, what does it mean to be free?
It's a difficult question to answer, and even so, there might not be an answer out there. But here are my thoughts on it.
To be truly free you need to know yourself. You need to know what you want, what you're comfortable with, who you're comfortable with, and what it is that you feel you succeed in. Do you know what these things are? Some people think they do. But really, put yourself in any situation. What do people want? Some people don't think they really know until it's too late. In all honesty, I don't think it's possible not to know what you want, although, if you think you don't know what you want then it's likely to say that you at least know what you don't want. If there's a question, then there's an answer, three answers usually. There's the black answer, the white answer, and then there's the grey answer, sort of like this comment. So maybe you know what it is you do or don't want. Then what? Find out what you're comfortable with. What are the extremes that you are willing to go to? What are the limits to what you're comfortable with? It's all really intimate details that people don't bother to think about in their lives. I know I took the little things for granted until it was too late...sometimes I still do. But I'm okay with that and I move on. Don't get me wrong, I'm still figuring things out; I'm also learning what my limits are and becoming comfortable with them.
Then there's the who you feel comfortable with and what you succeed in part. Finding out the people you feel comfortable with definitely isn't an easy thing. If you're like me--which you often seem to be--you're the type who says they really don't like people in general. Well...that's not always going to work. It's almost impossible to go through life without putting up with someone out there. Hell, you're putting up with me right now ;-) Anyway, sometimes it's the people part that's the most difficult to figure out. But you will, eventually, and eventually it will happen that you've finally surrounded yourself with people who think and feel the same way you do about ... people. If that made sense.
And then there's the success. Who needs success? Did I say success? Heh, well...it's not always about the success I guess. It's more...support. What do you feel you can support yourself with, and be happy doing it? That goes back to finding what you feel comfortable doing I suppose. Because when everything comes down to it, it's all about your own comfort I suppose. You can be the poorest person in the world, travelling from place to place, but be comfortable with it, and be happy with what you've accomplished.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, to be truly free you have to understand your own situation and be comfortable with it. It's not much, and the answer is probably just as confusing as the question...but, the question made me think...and I decided to record my thoughts here for you, the person who inspired me to think about it. I suppose I should put it in my writing journal...which really isn't a writing journal at all...*ponders* k, I'll leave you alone now. =)
The Altered and More Organised Thoughts on the Question...maybe...
What does it mean to be free?
To be truly free you need to know yourself. You need to know what you want, what you're comfortable with, who you're comfortable with, and what it is that you feel you succeed in.
That was the first thing that came to mind when I came across that question. To be free, you need to know yourself. And then the conclusion I came to at the end: To be truly free you have to understand your own situation and be comfortable with it. Two very different things now that I think about it...
Being free, comes with the knowledge that you let yourself be free. To be comfortable with what you have, and to be secure in your own mind. If you think about it, I suppose it all comes down to...knowledge. Knowing what's best for you, knowing how to turn an uncomfortable situation into a comfortable one.
Figure out the simple, little details of your life and found out what makes you, you. It all comes down to being comfortable. And to be comfortable, you must know what it is that creates that comfort. The do's the don'ts and everything in between. I would be completely astonished if any of this made sense...
