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[hazy_reflection]

John said we don't feel as close as we used to. He used me working as an excuse for it...that because I'm working we obviously don't spend as much time together so we're not doing as much together anymore...

Should I be worried about this...? Either way, it made me feel like a horrible wife, even though I know he didn't mean it that way, nor did he want to make me feel that way. But I still feel horrible about it.

Comments

[a-leprechaun.livejournal.com]

What's the context? Were you in the middle of a Serious Discussion, or was it more of an off-hand comment he made?

I wouldn't necessarily worry right off the bat. My John and I have times when we're really out of sync with our schedules, especially now since I'm working two jobs... and it might suck, and we might complain about it to each other, but it's not a question of blaming the other person. It just is what it is, and we do our best to find time to spend together.

[fyrestar1.livejournal.com]

I agree with a_leprechaun. It depends on context.

Is he implying that he wants you to quit? Does he want you to move your schedule somehow to match with his? Is he planning to change his schedule to line up with yours? Are you the only one working right now?

If I were you, I wouldn't feel horrible about it. Working is a fact of life. Sometimes two people work similar schedules, sometimes they don't. It sucks, but what does he expect? For you to quit working and just sit around waiting for him to get home?

[honest-illusion.livejournal.com]

Why not talk to him about it? :) That way, you'll have a better understanding of his side and you two could start working things out. Based on my experience, when I let disturbing remarks like that slide, the conflicts just got worse because I didn't air them out when I should have.